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Change.
I hate it. Seriously, I detest it. I wish I knew why. I’m sure there is a psychological reason for it. If you have followed my blog, you have probably watched it grow and change as I’ve had two facelifts thus far and countless mini changes like adding the coupon database, adding the printable grocery list feature, etc etc. (My blog turns 2 years old in just a few days.) Even though my blog’s facelifts have made my blog easier to use and perhaps even more visually appealing, once the facelift has gone through, I often have a difficult time looking at the changes and determining if I like them or not. I often have to rely on the thoughts of friends, family and even you guys, to decide whether the improvements are better. (I don’t want you to think I can’t make decisions for myself – I can.. But with change, I tend to dislike anything new for at least a couple days until I get used to the changes.)
I remember my husband got a new pair of glasses about 2 years ago. They were trendy glasses. And so not cheap. So NOT frugal. He received countless compliments on them. But if he asked me what I thought, I couldn’t help but say that I didn’t like them. It wasn’t that they looked bad or that I was bitter about the amount he spent on them (well, maybe a little ;), but they looked different from the glasses I was used to and my brain couldn’t wrap itself around the difference enough to like it.
The reason I thought about this topic for Thursday’s Thoughts is because today the road my husband and I have been traveling on for the past 8 months decided to fork off to the right and I wasn’t ready for the curve. So, while I know I need to go with the flow and while deep down I know that the change will be wonderful in the end, for now, it makes me a bit sick as I have to switch gears in my expectations.
So, I guess I’m wondering if I am the only one who has issues with change. Are you all “go with the flow” people or do you tend to resist change like I do? What tips do you all have for handling unexpected (or even expected) alterations in your life’s path? Would love to hear your thoughts!
P.S. I’m sorry if you thought I was going to give you some profound thought or life experience in today’s Thursday’s Thoughts. 😉
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My name is Liza and I began my money-saving journey in the Spring of 2009 as a way to stretch a limited household income. I had lost my job and my hubby was self-employed. I launched Addicted to Saving in November of 2009 and it has grown by leaps and bounds. Since then, my hubby and I have struggled with the ups and downs of two failed adoptions and are now LOVING being parents to our little man Asher who we brought home from Ethiopia in August of 2013. I feel incredibly blessed to be able to help you save money. My goal is that you will have FUN and become empowered to save more and more money each week..
I am the same when it comes to change. I don’t like it. Even if it’s something very small, it can throw my whole day (or couple days) off. I know the main reason behind this for me, but I think it also has to do with personality. Some people thrive on change; some don’t. I have a friend who has always been a go with flow kind of person, but her life would be too hectic for me. As long as the feelings of discomfort surrounding change are healthy – i.e. don’t deter us from normal living – I think it’s ok!
I hate change as well. I always have. I always freak out initially and once the change is done I slowly begin accepting it. My husband is in a career that has him here for 6 months and somewhere else for 6 months with no security of where he will be from one day to the next. I went with him this year which was a HUGE adjustment for me to leave my job, where I grew up, etc. It has been the best decision for us though. I think change can make your marriage and life stronger, depending on how you choose to cope with it (and how supportive your partner is with your adjustment). How boring our lives would be if there was never a curveball thrown at us! Just breathe and know that you can handle anything with the support of your family and friends (and blog friends!)
I hear ya! :))
Liza you are so gorgeous!
Change is inevitable. The more you fight it, the harder it is to deal with it. The best way to deal with it, think of everything you’ve accomplished and have overcome in your lifetime. EVERYTHING, from the things you can’t stop thinking about to things you wish you could just forget about already. YOU overcame that, YOU accomplished that, YOU made it your b!tch and owned that. If my husband and I can go from getting married, to him ending up in a near fatal accident a week after our honeymoon, financial failure (thanks economy!), losing everything, to near divorce, to picking ourselves up financially and emotionally then near death together (some guy thought it would be a great idea to commit suicide at 4.30am while driving in our neighborhood and smashed through our bedroom t-boning our bed) from three years ago to today…you HAVE to learn to deal with change. I’ve learned while I may not like the change, the sooner I just accept that “okay, this is how it is going to be now” it feels like an instant weight is lifted off my shoulders and it allows me to clear my head to come up with a solution to change the situation if I am truly unhappy. Its not always easy, but you are a lot stronger then you realize. Good luck. 🙂
Change can be good or bad. Good changes are exciting! Moving or having a child, those are big changes that are very exciting. But then there are bad changes, like job loses, (my husband lost his job last Dec.) or accidents. We have been lucky that most of our changes are good, or can be good if you look at a little differently. When my husband lost his job, he was able to help me build up my cleaning business, by almost 1/3 in just a few months. My daughter will be going away to college next year and we have been looking at colleges in different states and has accepted a scholarship at one of the schools…..6 hours away! Life without change can be boring. I do hope the changes you are going through end up being positive changes. Good luck and I couldn’t have afforded some of my changes without you!! Keep up the good work!
Changes can be good or bad. Good changes are exciting like moving to a new place, getting married or having a baby. Those are big changes that are very exciting. But then there are bad changes like job loss (my husband lost his job last dec. ) or accidents. We have been lucky that most of our changes have been for good things, sometimes you don’t realize it at first, but if you look at things a little differently you can see the good in changes. When my husband lost his job he was able to help me increase my cleaning business by 1/3, in just a few months. My daughter will be going away to college next August…..6 hours away, It will be very sad, but both of us have been having a lot of fun taking trips looking at different colleges. And through all her hard work is going to a school with a Lacrosse scholarship. Life without change can be boring I do hope the changes you are going through are positive. Good luck and I couldn’t have gotten through many of my changes without your help!
Change is actually the only constant in like. Sooner or later everything changes whether we like it or not. I believe that fear of change is really fear of the unknown. We get used to things being a certain way, and like it that way. But, life can not stand still for our comfort. Where there is life, there is movement, growth and change.
I find that the best way to deal with it is to accept these facts and pray constantly. When I feel connected to my creator, It’s easier to embrace and appreciate my life no matter what.